please change your teacher,
it is hard for you to experience the term relax since you still not yet know how to apply the force
and please tell us which kind of vibrato are you using. is it a arm or wrist vibrato?
vibrato should be like a "wave". you add pressure at once and let the force flow to make your arm/ wrist back and forth.
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